Now I Get It. I think.

There is the ordinary friend zone.  Some say.  There is the flirt zone. Some say.  And then there is being the back up boo. 

I had been the back up boo.  That might seem like a good thing.  Until it is not, anymore.

I find it disturbingly humorous how  wing nuts  will call some school of thought prevalant with the left as a "religion"  to mock it.